True Lies

People may come and go in your life. And there are people who will hurt you and make you happy. Iisa lang masasabi ko……….

 
True Lies

 
Almost everybody fall in love everyday. They felt good about it and they think everything was so wonderful. Oh yah! At first, you fall for someone, you giggle, and even sigh, for others they feel like they were in heaven. And then what? Someone will hurt your feelings, leave you, breaks your heart and in some situation someone will tell you this lines: “Sorry, I don’t love you anymore” or “We can’t work this out”. That’s what they tell you, right?

But the truth is that they love someone else or maybe they didn’t loved you after all. It’s true! Truth hurts and if it hurts you’ll cry and if you cry and breakdown, there’s one way to ease the pain. Just move on, don’t close the door in your heart, learn from your mistakes, get up and be a stronger person.

Remember this everybody:

      - Love is not a choice, it is a feeling

      - nothing is constant only changes 

- GRIEF -

We all grieve differently
Some grieve quietly
Solemn in their grief not wanting
To show their pain
While some are loud
Letting the pain out for all to see and then beginning the long battle of healing
Some hold their grief in for so long
That eventually it eats at them
Causing them to misdirect it
In different ways unknowingly pointing
The pain of loss toward others not wanting of it or deserving
When they should be letting go and moving on

Grief is not a friend
For it makes one angry, sad, exhausted, and confused
Grief is an unwanted guest for it stays for a long, long, time
Seemingly never wanting to leave
Once in a while it will allow some peace but for only a brief time span
It would rather curl it’s black tentacles around and keep you in it’s grip forever

And then one day you realize you are starting to feel a little better
As the seasons change so do we
In time we shall heal
You start to get back into your routine and realize grief is finally packing up to end it’s long overstayed visit
For it was a long process this visit from grief
Each day gets a little better
Keep on moving
Stay busy
One day, Grief is finally gone
Until the next time it is required to visit again

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How to make sure your brake-up is not bitter

from www.love-lectures.com

Tell your partner first
Before telling the whole world about how you want to end the relationship, make sure it is only your partner who finds out first. It is not respectful towards the partner if everyone knows that your relationship is going to end except him or her.

The right space
Another important aspect about ending a relationship with grace is where you choose to break the news to your partner. Try not to do this is in a public place like a restaurant as there might be too many people around and it might inhibit you from saying everything you want. Instead, choose a place where both of you can feel comfortable.

Do it personally
The worst thing you can do while breaking up with someone is to end your relationship over the phone or via e-mail. Whether or not your relationship was good or bad, your partner deserves to know this in person. you must make time to meet your partner and then do it face to face.

Be simple
There’s no need to put him or her through the history of your decision to break-up. They do deserve an explanation, but save your partner (and yourself) the long-winded reasons of exactly why and how things went sour.

The consequences
When you end a relationship, you have to face the consequnces. so before you break-up, be sure you have completely thought it out and don’t do it on an impulse. Think of all possible consequences both good and bad and then make a move.

Ending a relationship is never easy, but it doesn’t have to be hell

How To Survive A Breakup

by Evi Stamou

“Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss, and ends with a teardrop.”But are tears enough to chase away the pain of a break up?Most of us have been there. Some of us are there. And for sure, many of us will be there in the future. When the person you are in love with suddenly leaves you, you may think that your whole identity is shattered, and that you will never recover from the pain - but keep in mind, the sun will rise again, sooner or later.
Until then, here are some things you can do, to go through the painful post-breakup period a little easier.

First of all, don’t deny the breakup. It may seem difficult to accept that your heated love had such a chilling end, but the sooner you accept the fact that they’ve left you, the better it is. Don’t be self-pitying and don’t keep asking why - just try to get used to the idea that you’ll be single for now.
Don’t get close to the things your ex has left behind. Get rid of all the stuff they’ve left at your house, and all the presents you’ve been given for your birthday or for your 1- and-a-half-year anniversary. These objects bring you memories of the person that has hurt you, and every time you remember, you will start crying. I don’t suggest that you forget about them. After all, how can you forget someone you were in love with? It’d be like trying to remember someone you’ve never met. The best thing to do is to put all their things in a box and make sure that you‘ll lock it well in your closet. You can open it when you will be ready; when you will have got over then, and when this stuff can only make you smile.

Do cry! Crying may seem an obvious result of a breakup, but sometimes it’s not that easy to cry even though you really want to. But, what keeps us from crying? Denial of losing the one you love may be a reason. Sometimes it takes a while until you realize that they have made up their mind and won’t come back. Pride may be another. You might want to seem tough and prove to your friends (and yourself) that you don’t care. Stop being selfish and stubborn! Don’t hold your anger inside; by doing so, you will just be more stressed and snappy. Instead, release your pain. Let yourself cry! After a good cry, you will not only be relieved, but also be able to eat and sleep a lot easier (eating and sleep problems are very common after a break up). Notwithstanding the benefits of crying, it is still considered to be socially unacceptable. Unless you want to make a fool of yourself (and this will happen if you walk down the street and you sob every so often), avoid going to the places that remind you of them. Just stay home until you break into tears.

Spend time with your friends! No matter who left and how much you loved them, no matter how much you are hurt, it’s almost impossible to go through a break up without your friends. They are people who love you, and know you better than anybody. So, they will be willing to listen to you and help you. Your friends will always be there for you. They have seen you falling in love with the person that hurt you, they have heard your stories about your relationship, so they will support at this ugly period of your life. Don’t hesitate to follow them everywhere. If they ask you to go out any time of the day, it’s probably because they don’t want you to stay alone at home.

Do find a new hobby!A break up is an awesome opportunity to make a fresh start in your life. Your whole life has already turned upside down and the best thing to do is to make the best of it! Finding a new hobby is an enjoyable procedure, and will give you a good reason to wake up in the morning - you’ll have something to wait for. Don’t just stay at home watching TV. TV is not a hobby. Just ask yourself what it is that you like to do but you haven’t done it so far. Do you want to broaden your mind? Learn a foreign language! Do you want to feel more creative? Take acting classes! Do you just want to punch your ex in the face? Then you can vent your anger on the punching bag! Start practicing martial arts! Plus, getting started on a new hobby will not only give you a different perspective on your life and yourself, but it will also give you the opportunity to meet many new people who share the same interests and concerns as you. And, who knows? Maybe you will find someone that will make you smile again…